Songs to rock your day as a single mom
Even though it’s not a prerequisite to enjoy these songs, obviously. But as a recently separated, heartbroken mom of two, these tunes helped me deal with my new reality. They motivated me to keep going. They made me set new goals, even if it were only because of “I’ll show him what he’s lost” attitude. This playlist of songs to rock your day as a single mom helped me survive the most difficult and complicated time of my life.
What’s going on with the world today?
Is it only me, or are there more and more women who start to realize that their relationships are toxic? Is it only me, or are the men of today not really rising up to the occasion of being good husbands and fathers? It seems like modern women more and more often decide to drop the weight of carrying their husband’s emotional problems.
You must have heard by now about an article written by Greg Matos, PsyD. His viral post in Psychology Today “What’s Behind the Rise of Lonely, Single Men” explains it better that I could ever put it in words myself. He writes: “Men need to address their deficits to meet healthier relationship expectations”.
You can read the whole article here (no affiliation).
Women have higher expectations
Women no longer depend on men when it comes to income and everything it entails. We are no longer property… but we can sure own it. We have the right to vote, to obtain health care and a fair trial. However, there is a long way to go for our societies to be trully egalitarian.
One of the things that it really showing nowadays is the lack of maturity and emotional availability of men. Another very important aspect is how men show up in their relationships. Women are more and more aware that they should not be solely responsible for managing their households and bringing up their children. We expect men to be more present. We expect them to be equal partners, not just a wallet that come back from work to play video games and watch football.
The problem is, men are not really catching up, majority of them at least. And that plays a huge role is many women staying single by choice rather than getting into relationships with men who don’t meet their expectations. Or, they choose to leave their present toxic unevolving relationships.
My story
Well that wasn’t what happened to me. I was growing more and more aware of the qualities and skills my husband was lacking. It was a constant reason of frictions between us.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I am perfectly aware that I’m far from perfect myself. However, I do possess a growth mindset that does not allow me to just stagnate. So I tried to look for solutions. Unfortunately, it takes two to create a problem, and it takes two to solve it. My husband was unwilling to take on any plan for growth that I suggested. The hickup is, he never came up with his own plan.
The sad truth is that I was so tired of trying to fix our relationship. I grew resentful of my husband. So, as you may expect, I asked for a divorce…
No, not really. I’m catholic and I don’t believe in divorce. Any problem can be solved, just not with the thinking that created it. I was willing to keep trying and work on our relationship issues. So when my husband asked my if I was happy (like he would do any time I tried to hold him accountable), I gave a shot at being honest with him, and said “no”.
And that was it. Soon enough, he asked me for a divorce saying that he was done with my nagging and my comments and criticizm.
Here I am, a single heartbroken mom
I was heartbroken! I tried to convince him to change his mind, and, as embarrassed as I might be admit it, I begged him not go through with it.
But he did. So I packed three suitcases and went back to my hometown, across the globe. I moved in with my parents for moral and logistical (two little kids) support.
What kept me going were my kids, obviously. What helped me keep going were the song I present to you here. You probably know majority of them, if not all. I’ll share the list either way. Maybe you never thought of a particular song as having therapeutic value, who knows?
I hope this list will help you keep going, as it did for me.
So here we go!
Songs to rock your day as a (single) mom
1. This Is Me
My number one, my anthem. I would listen to that song many times throught the day to boost myself with renewed energy, power and motivation to keep going. The song comes from a movie called “The greatest showman”. It’s so moving and so powerful at the same time! Just hearing the first few notes gives me chills. And the moment they fall after the slow motion jump and start singing – a masterpiece!
Just one more thing I want to tell you:
You are glorious!
2. Let It Go
Even though this song comes from a children’s movie, I think we can all agree it’s one of the most powerful songs to listen to after a tough breakup. If you want to start a new life after a toxic relationship, you need to let a lot of things go… And as a single mom you have to let go of many expectations you put on yourself and your kids. It’s not easy, I know, I’m struggling with it myself a lot. But I really think it’s worth the effort.
3. Fight Song
This other song is so energetic and powerful, but somehow delicate at the same time. I would listen to it a lot while walking through the woods nearby my kids’ school. It inspired me to start this blog with the hope of being that “small boat on the ocean, sending big waves into motion”.
The song also brings me hope and gives me strength. When my husband told me he wanted a divorce, I was crushed. I thought my life was ending… But it’s not, I’m not giving up. I have new dreams now, for myself and my little family. And I know I can reach so many goals ahead, “casue I’ve still got a lot fight left in me”…
4. Unstoppable
This next song is so powerful! Great lyrics and a fantastic voice make for a highly motivational song to go on and kick some serious butt (karate movie kicking and punching sounds come on in your head while you’re reading)! So, whenever you’re in doubt, play it, sing and shout: “I’m unstoppable!”. And then proceed to rock your day.
5. Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You)
This awesome song brings an incredible oomph to your day, especially the chorus. For me personally the line “doesn’t mean I’m over cause you’re gone” fills me with renewed energy and helps me combat any self-doubt. You can learn the choreography as an added bonus to move your body and activate yourself.
6. Roar
Next on my list of songs to rock your day is “Roar”. Katy Perry sings: “You helped me down, but I got up. Already brushing off the dust.” Great vocals and very relatable lyrics. Although I was not usually the one who “bit her tongue”, “sat quietly and agreed politely”. And it was one of the reasons my ex left me. I find comfort in that song. Plus, it has such a cute video, don’t you think?
7. Firework
Another one by Katy Perry. And such a great video! It’s a pleasure to listen and to watch. For those difficult moments of being the only person fully responsible for your kids and fully present in their lives. I bet you were just that most of the time before calling quits on the mister. The struggle is real. Added features if you’re trying to heal and become a conscious parent. So put this one on if you need to regroup and boost your self-worth.
8. Speechless
Yes, another song from a children’s movie. This time a live action based on a classic. Although this song was not in the original animated version, it makes for a great upgrade on the princess character. Oh, the times I would listen to it… my son started singing it after some time. The lines “I will take these broken wings and watch me burn across the sky” give me literal chills when I listen to them. Watch Naomi Scott exhale with so much emotion at the end…
9. Unwritten
Such beautiful shots filled with soft light! I’ve always liked this song. Whenever I needed a positive boost this was my go-to song. Who would have known I’d be listening to it as a recently singled mom to keep my morale up. The songs reminds me that life keeps on going, the world keeps turning, and there is future ahead. And the best thing is that I can create that future for myself and my kids. “Today is where [my] book begins… The rest is still unwritten.” Let’s write!
10. I Am Woman
My guilty pleasure on-loop song from a TikTok creator Emmy Meli. It’s like an incredibly catchy affirmation list I would keep listening and then singing all day long. It’s short and sweet, just like me 😉
Like all the other songs to rock your day on my list, you probably know this one too. If you’re on TikTok, you surely have heard it as a sound being used in many videos by female creators, not only moms. It’s gone viral that one! So if you’re in need of quick pick-me-up, go for this one.
There is also a longer version of the song that is now on YouTube, but I still prefer the TikTok version. Listen to the extended version though, so that you can decide which one you like more.
Playlist of songs to rock your day as a (single) mom
So there you are mamas, a list of song that boost your energy and confidence, motivate you to keep going and do your best, and are just great songs to listen to, sing and dance.
I created a YouTube playlist, so that you don’t have to look for each song separately.
What songs to you listen to for a boost in your morale? Share your ideas in the comments below.
And now go and have a kicka$$ day! Love ya!
2 Comments
Melissa
I love “Unwritten”! These are great song choices 🙂
Anna
It is a great song! Thank you for your comment, I hope I inspired you to start your day on a positive note (pun intended) 🙂